What do you think the notion ?beauty? consists of? How definitely can the appearance make woman feel attractive? Why do some women feel beautiful and are absolutely satisfied with what the nature has given them while the others complain of their unsuccessful height, overweight, plain look all their life? Are the women objective while valuing the advantages and disadvantages of their natural beauty?
It wouldn?t be a mistake to say that the number of the women unsatisfied with their look constitutes the majority and this majority is overwhelmed. In the base of women?s discontent of their appearance there are far from subjective representations about the imaginary defects. Very often they are based on the spiteful estimation of the close people, and female self-estimation can be simply ruined with the only remark on her appearance or fleeting ironical sight.
Imaginary or exaggerated with the help of the surrounding people defects can shadow even the most obvious female advantages. Such tricks of the women?s mentality cost extremely much ? they bring the loss of self-esteem, constant unsatisfaction, envy that can poison the life of every woman. Psychologists approve that when the attitude to the own appearance doesn?t depend on the self-esteem and real inborn look, we can speak about the complex of appearance.
This complex is able to follow you all your life but there are two ?crisis points?, two periods of age when negative self-estimation is especially bright and depends greatly on the surrounding estimation. The 1st ?crisis point? is in the period of 15 ? 18 years, coinciding with the teenager period.
The 2nd ?crisis? age for the self-esteem coincide with the 5th decade. The amount of the negative emotions of unattractive look increases with the years. Partly it happens because in the course of time one extra-reason for unsatisfaction occurs ? it?s comparison with the younger girls. One more characteristic feature of this age is requirement to solve deeper psychological problems through the intention to change, to improve the appearance. These problems are: continuing for the long time dependence on the other person, chronic unsatifaction with the way of life, achieved progress, family.
By the way, such ?vention? of the inner psychological problems, even not as global as attitude to the own appearance, is characteristic for women of any age. You should have noticed that being upset it?s better not to come up to the mirror: all the winkles are very noticeable, figure looks awful, hair sticks out! That?s why I advise to pay attention to the situations when you are irritated with the ?defects? of your appearance. Perhaps, the reason is somewhere beyond?
