I believe that every single woman is beautiful, and I?m not referring to inner beauty. The reason why so many women see themselves as ugly and inadequate, is because society has come up with ridiculous definitions of beauty that only a small percentage of women are able to attain; and most of those only after the ever so popular ?complete makeovers?. We have been led to believe that nature cheated us, and so we spend hundreds of dollars adding this and removing that because deep inside we really want to be gorgeous. Sisters, acceptance is the key. Making peace with what you do have and forgetting about what you don?t have, is the first step towards developing a healthy self concept. Remember this simple rule: always look your best no matter where you?re going, because when a woman looks good on the outside it makes her feel good on the inside.
Dress for the occasion. Looking your best doesn?t mean that you need to be overdressed. There is a time and a place for every outfit. Learn to figure it out.
Know your size. Wearing clothing that is too big or too tight is hardly ever a good idea. Don?t be afraid to try on the garments you?re purchasing because in the end it can save you a lot of time and money. Ill-fitting attire gives the impression that you are careless.
Make it match. Although fashion these days allows the combination of different colors and fabric, you still need to make sure that what you?re wearing actually goes well together. While you?re at it, choose colors that complement your lovely complexion and bring out your beautiful eyes, versus tones that make you fade into the background. If you?re unsure about which colors are right for you, stand in front of a mirror with natural light and hold different shades up to your face. You?ll realize that some of them make you look radiant, while others harden your facial features.
Choose your design. Not everything that is fashionable is appropriate for every figure. Pick outfits that are comfortable and at the same time enhance your silhouette.
Be aware of your age. Contrary to popular belief, dressing like a teenager when you?re in your thirties does not make you look younger. Dressing according to your age will make you more attractive if you pay attention to details like color, fabric, and style.
Pay attention to the inside. It doesn?t matter how stunning you might look, if you carry around the extra baggage of unforgiveness, resentment, envy, prejudice, and hatred, they will show up in your interactions with others. Be sure to spend some time every day in quiet reflection on how to become a better woman and how you can empower other women to do the same.
Dinorah Blackman-Williams has taught at different levels for 16 years. She lives in Panama with her husband and little dauhter, Imani. Dinorah is currently working on her second book. Her first book can be previewed and purchased at http://www.lulu.com/blackman | |
