Our body, whatever it is, is an essential part of our personality. It is the part which influences on our character actively. It is interesting that such close symbiosis of physical and inner Ego in the greater degree is characteristic for women. Women conclude, whether they are happy, successful, how far they can be realized and to wait for something from a life, proceeding in very big degree from the estimation of own appearance. With the men there comes some difference, their self-estimation is not so dependent on the external data.
Satisfaction with the own appearance comes only with the positive self-perception: ?Yes, I look just so! Me is me! I like myself!?
I know that my readers can disagree and we can?t argue with the Nature, and nobody can feel a beauty if the figure, face, hair are far not perfect. And so, ugly women simply don?t exist in the nature. And the psychologists working with female problems, consider, that the differentiation on "beautiful" and "ugly" is radically incorrect. Instead of it, they offer other scale of female appeal: ?optimistical women? and ?pessimistic women?.
For your better understanding the difference, let's consider these two female types more detailed. ?Pessimistic women? never notice advantages of their appearance, focus of their self-perception is directed only on lacks.
As a result, they are always unsatisfied with themselves, complaining on the real and imaginary defects, they are capable to speak only about what is not pleasant to them and how they suffer from it. These sufferings as you understand, are not always passive, more often they are active. But trying to correct the appearance ?pessimistic women? demand from themselves exact conformity to "ideal", to reach which they, naturally, are not capable.
And now let?s make everything clear with the ?ideal? to which ?it?s necessary to aspire?.
Every epoch gives the ideal of female beauty, with the certain proportions of a figure and features. What do you think, how many real women can correspond to this ideal? Correctly. Units! And what can all rest do?
The choice is rather poor: it is possible to create own image taking into consideration the natural data being guided reasonably on "standard". And it is possible, contrary to with what the nature has awarded us, to aspire to corresponding to a fashion with all the forces.
